Monday, April 27, 2009

Our big news!

The big news in our world is that Jason and I are going to adopt a baby! As some of you know, we have been trying for quite a while to have a baby, with no luck. We've been seeing a reproductive endocrinologist for the past 18 months and along with several tests and some basic treatments we have done 7 IUIs (intrauterine insemination cycles), an IVF cycle (in-vitro fertilization) in November, and just recently we had a FET (frozen embryo cycle.) Obviously none of those worked, and we were to the point that surrogacy was being discussed.

Over the last few months, we've had lots of decisions to make. Adoption is something we've had in the back of our heads for awhile, and since December it has been something we've really been leaning towards. The big turning point for me was Christmas Eve. We were at mass and a little boy (4 maybe?) sang a solo in Silent Night. His dad was sitting in front of me videotaping and it just became too much for me. Finally, being pregnant wasn't as important – being parents, having the family, videotaping our kids at a Christmas program – that is what we want. Obviously I'm going to miss the experience of being pregnant and that makes me sad, but once we bring our baby home, that part isn't going to matter anymore.

We've interviewed several agencies and picked one a few weeks ago. We're actually 1/3 of the way done with our homestudy! We had A LOT of forms to fill out, had basic physicals, several background checks, and had to get some reference letters. We’re also answering several questions and gathering pictures that will all be a part of our bio, which is what the birth mother will pick us from. We had an office interview last week, will have an all day class at the beginning of May, and the actual home visit a few weeks after that. If all goes well, we’ll be active around the end of June/beginning of July – and at that point will be “paper pregnant”!

We're planning to adopt a domestic newborn, so it's anybody's guess on how long it will take. Our agency has great placement rates though, and their average wait time is 9 months. Still, for some it could take 3 years – which is a scary thought. For others it could happen after 5 days – which is also scary (but obviously exciting too!)

While parts of us are still grieving the loss of a biological child at this point in our lives, we're so excited and hopeful for the path we're about to go down. We actually feel like we’re expecting, even though we don’t know the “when” of it. It's amazing to actually believe that we ARE going to become parents. :)


Torrey said...

You guys are amazing. Congratulations! Can't wait to meet the rug-rat!

Amanda said...

You guys gave gotten a lot done! I'm so excited! You could be a mommy this YEAR!

Kathy said...

I'm so happy for you and Jason! :-) Congrats!

Lily said...

WOW - Laura this is such wonderful news and an inspiration to so many. Truly. Keeping you in my prayers that it all works out in the perfect timing for you and your husband!

DavidMcN said...

I'm so happy for you Laura. When my parents got me there were 5 families ahead of them that all wanted a biological mother, though, requested I be put with a Catholic family, and my parents were the first Catholics on the list. They were told to expect 1-2 years at the time, and got me in 4 months.

Now whether or not they are ultimately happy with the situation however.... ;)

Lisa said...

I'm so happy for you both! We look forward to hearing more as you go step by step. Congratulations!